Hello my lovelies! My first post here is going to be about facing struggles..
We are all from different genres and walks of life and we all lead different lives. We are all struggling in our own way; monetarily, emotionally, physically, or culturally.
Some of you reading this are struggling at this very moment in some way or the other. Those who aren’t, you are blessed and let’s pray that you do not have to face any struggles in your life but chances are you most likely will and you will learn from them. Like happiness and joy are a part of life, so are failure and defeat. The key is to see all struggles as a phase; some are long and some are short. Unfortunately, how long or short a bad phase is going to be is never in our hands. But what is in our hands is our attitude towards these setbacks.
Please bear in mind that in no way am I trying to play life coach to anyone going through a tough time by broaching this topic. Whatever is here is just my take based on my experiences and how I have managed to tackle my own demons.
Like everyone, I have been through my share of ups and downs. At one point all I did was complain about how life was perpetually unfair. We all go through these feelings. But the most important realization I’ve had over the years is that 9 times out 10 it is our own mind playing tricks on us. Our own thought patterns become our worst enemy. We get so consumed by the negativity that we start taking what we have working for us for granted! We devalue and belittle ourselves into thinking that we can’t do anything or we’re not good enough or smart enough or pretty enough or rich enough or popular enough to be what we want to be. But the truth is, we can be everything if we try.
I firmly believe in destiny and I do believe that if it’s not in your destiny to get success now then you will not. BUT instead you will find out what you are meant to do and you will be where you have to be and get what you need to have to attain that success. However, to open those doors of destiny, luck or success we have to take the trying steps!
A lot of us get bogged down with negative thinking and discouragement. I know I do all the time! And if you’re like me and can’t help negativity from getting to you then let the very same negative feelings motivate you and aim to prove those who doubt you wrong! Sometimes it’s our negative thinking that works as a conduit to make you chase after that unattainable dream, just so you can get to where you thought you would never be in life.
So I want to encourage all my beautiful readers out there that we should always, no matter what, try to do what we strongly believe in, even if it is an impossible dream. For example, on a personal note, It took me a looong time before I could start this blog. Literally YEARS. I always doubted myself. I did not think anyone would be interested in reading what I had to share but I overcame those doubts and I took that leap of faith. Even then I still faced the headache of getting it up and running. It is a learning process and I know I will get better at it with time.
If you’ve been thinking of doing something for the longest time but feel that the time has passed, then you couldn’t be farther from the truth. Don’t let time be the deciding factor for your dreams. It’s always better to be late than never having tried.
Another thing we all do is focus too much on the end results. That is also a stumbling block. We spend way too much time thinking about what we will accomplish as a result. Set out to do something primarily because it makes you happy rather than wondering what the end result will be. Your passion and hard work will bring you the success, accomplishments and the recognition that you seek eventually.
If you have been putting something on hold then don’t let age, time or the uncertainty of what lies ahead stop you. Take the plunge if that’s where your heart is.
Of course it’s not easy when you have bills to pay and a family to feed, but taking baby steps towards your goal, regardless of how small or big will make you a happier person. You will become a happier partner, parent, sibling, colleague, boss and all the numerous roles you play to the loved ones around you.
Don’t sideline those dreams because your dreams are a part of you and you are just as important.
Setbacks, negativity, bad people and a cruel environment are all a part of life. I wish we could fast forward to a happier, positive world where everything was peace and love. Sadly we still have a long way to go before we get there, so for now we can help each other… How? By overcoming these negative setbacks and setting examples of ourselves by doing something we truly believe in, so that those who can’t muster the courage can follow our lead!
I stand behind all you beautiful ladies who have taken the leap of faith and are venturing out in the unknown. We are all in this together and you have my full support. Believe in yourself and believe that you have something to offer because we all do in one way or the other! I wish all my beautiful girls my unconditional love and wish the very best in whatever you are out to achieve! Be healthy. Be beautiful. And always be you! 🙂